Divorce Mediation FAQs
Mediation is almost always far less expensive than a court-involved divorce.
Many mediated divorces are settled in a few sessions. Compare this with the months that are commonly involved in a court divorce.
Court is a public forum. The most intimate aspects of your life can be aired. On the other hand, mediation sessions are private, letting you preserve your dignity.
Mediation can benefit your whole family. You, as parents, know what’s best for your own children. Studies show that a civil approach helps children recover better from the stress of divorce. A mediated divorce can make for better parents and happier children.
You choose the times to meet, and to do it on your schedule, not the court’s.
This is a big one. Mediation allows you to control the decisions that affect you most. The adversarial process of court is simply not designed to give you control.
Unlike couples who battle and are forced to accept a judge’s decision, with a mediated settlement you’re far less likely to return to court with future disputes. Mediation is simply a more civil and respectful approach to resolving your differences and moving on with your life.
That’s the technical explanation of a separation agreement. I believe, however, that the agreement also serves another purpose. It’s a reflection of the best in each of you, proving that you were able to move through the pain of ending a marriage while still keeping your wits. It’s proof that you had a choice on how to conduct yourself, a choice about which process best reflected your values, and a choice about committing yourself to coming out at the other end as a stronger person—not a “winner” or “loser.”